When a woman's wave rises she feels she has an abundance of love to give, but when it falls she feels her inner emptiness and her need to be filled up with love. This time of bottoming out is a time for emotional housecleaning.
If she has suppressed any negative feelings or denied herself in order to be more loving on the upswing of her wave, then on the downswing she begins to experience these negative feelings and unfulfilled needs. During this down time she especially needs to talk about problems and be heard and understood.
When she is not feeling as good about herself, she is unable to be as accepting and appreciative of her partner. At her down times, she tends to be overwhelmed or more emotionally reactive. When her wave hits bottom, she is more vulnerable and needs more love. It is crucial that her partner understand what she needs at these times, otherwise he may make unreasonable demands.
Men argue the right to be free while women argue the right to be upset. Men want space while women want understanding.
If a woman is not supported in being unhappy sometimes then she can never truly be happy. To be genuinely happy requires dipping down into the well to release, heal and purify the emotions. This is a natural and healthy process.
~Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus (John Gray, 1992)
i feel like my wave is crashing right now. maybe it has been going downswing days before today. but i kinda ignored it. which of course makes me more unhappy or upset. i dun have what i want with me right now. i hope i can heal the wounds myself and have my needs fulfilled 2-3 months later.
hmm. im feeling so stressed with life right now. school work have been piling up and i feel like running away. grr. i hate crying.
-pEiShi-
